"You are my friend mommy." was the words of 6 year old a few days ago.
At first I thought nothing of this, but my response was, "I am your Mommy".
Then the other day she was being rather saucy, which has been the normal thing for awhile now.
I have yet gotten to the root of this problem of why my happy go lucky 6 year old is being so saucy....
Anyone who knows my children know my free loving child is not my saucy one and which one that is my saucy one. In my mind I tell my Mother and Father I am sorry each time my Saucy 6 year old has her saucy moments, which are often.... but that is just her way, Unlike my free loving child. Lets not leave out my Son either... he is very witty and smart, sometimes to smart for his own good. He is a very good mix of my husband and myself.... I think.
Anyways, back to "You are my friend"....
So She goes again "Momma you are my friend." Last night when I was scolding her to "Get in bed and stay in bed and if she gets out of bed again, I will have to shut your door." Then here is was again ...her big bright clear blue eyes shining up at me "Momma YOU are My FRieNd". I had to stop for a moment and think... I had heard this for days now, my response always being "Bella I am your mommy" So this time I said "I love you with all my heart, but Right Now I am your Momma, and I will always be your Momma, But I can not be your friend until you are an adult." She seemed happy with that answer and went off to bed, later that night she did get up due to being scared....more on that Later I suppose.
It was hard for me to tell her that I could not be her friend right now, and of course both my other children and over heard this convo between her and I.
My other girl made sure to tell me that next day, she cant wait to be my friend when she is grown-up and she is happy that I am her Momma, while giving me the biggest hug she could muster.
Needless for me to say, I think its hard being a Mother....cause secretly I wish I could just be their best friend.
That's wonderful. I think it's good that you're letting them know there is a difference between a mother and a friend.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jenn, sometimes its hard to know when you are doing a good job as a mother, and when you are not.
ReplyDeleteI know you are a wonderful mommy!I am proud of you!I am also proud of Amber for being a wonderful mommy too! It isn't easy being a mama and at times we have to discipline our children. Sometimes they don't understand until they become a mother or father then they realize the love of a mother. Now I am Amber's mom and her best friend forever!
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